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analingus - n. 
Oral sex performed on the anus.

autofellatio - n.
For a man to perform oral sex on himself, putting his penis in his own mouth.

autoerotic strangulation - n.
Suffocating oneself via strangulation for sexual stimulation, especially to increase the intensity of orgasm. A dangerous practice that sometimes results in death.

autoerotic asphyxiation - n.

bareback - adj.
Having sex without a condom, used especially for anal sex.

Barebacking simply feels better, is more enjoyable, and is more pleasurable, than protected anal intercourse.

bestiality - n.
Sexual interest or sexual acts with animals. See ZOOPHILIA.

boner - n.
An erection.

blow job - n.

bottom - n.
1. The submissive person in BDSM activity.

2. The one who is penetrated during anal sex, especially between gay males.

breath play - n.
Restricting airflow, by strangulation, suffocation, or other means for sexual stimulation.

Within this section she talks about breath play at one point (the practice of restricting or controlling airflow to a partner or yourself). She says things such as, "Any time you engage in play which restricts a bottom's ability to breathe, you have to be careful of how much you restrict their air and for how long." Vamp,

butch - adj.
Possessing traditionally masculine appearance, attributes and behaviors. Often used to describe gay men and women. See FEMME.

butt plug - n.
A sex toy designed for anal penetration that has a flared base. Usually smaller than a typical dildo and not shaped like a penis.

clap - n.
Gonorrhea. Usage note: usually used in the phrase "the clap"

cream - v.
When used in reference to men: to ejaculate. When used with women: to produce vaginal lubrication; to female ejaculate.

cunnilingus - n.
Oral sex performed on a woman.

The person performing cunnilingus should look into their partner's face and eyes for guidance, asking her if she likes what they are doing.

dental dam - n.
A safe sex barrier, usually made of a flat sheet of of latex, used when kissing or performing oral sex, especially on women.

dildo - n.
A cylindrical sex toy, often shaped like a penis, used to penetrate the vagina or anus. Usage note: A dildo generally refers to a toy with no moving parts, as opposed to a VIBRATOR which includes an electric motor and vibrates.

Even if your partnerís penis or fingers offer a great deal of sexual pleasure already, a dildo can supplement your typical lovemaking. A dildo can also provide a welcome change when you are masturbating, acting as another source of stimulation.

domme - n.
The dominant person in a bondage or S&M relationship; usually female. See DOMINATRIX

deep throat -n., v.
Fellatio in which the penis is inserted far into the mouth, entering the throat.

Deep throating is something that feels really good for your partner, but can be quite a chore for you. I myself, have not yet perfected my skills in this area, but I can on occasion deep throat someone. Queer Sex Guide

Dominatrix - n.
A dominant person in a bondage or S&M relationship; usually denotes a female professional. See DOMME

double penetration - n.
Penetration of the vagina and anus simultaneously. 

Have you ever tried intercourse with your wife while she is wearing the buttplug? I've been enjoying this particular form of double penetration for the past several months and it's really hot. Betty Dodson

DP - abbr.

drag queen - n.
A man who dresses in women's clothing, especially used for gay men who dress up in elaborate outfits sometimes as part of a stage show. See also TRANSVESTITE.

Why don't you wear a sequined green dress and a pink wig? There are so many ways to express yourself and be beautiful without just overcoming your flaws. Who has more fun than drag queens?"

ED - abbr.

Edgeplay - n.
Potentially dangerous sexual practices, often involving pain.

Another absent bit of advice I wish I would have seen is in regard to fireplay (the practice usually includes acts of lighting someone's partner on fire in controlled ways that usually leave no burns). This type of edgeplay is particularly edgy for larger people if their partner allows alcohol to pool in the folds of their skin. Vamp,

erectile dysfunction - n.
The inability to get or sustain an erection, a euphemism for IMPOTENCE. Abbreviated as ED.

Erectile dysfunction (ED) affects over 30 million men to some degree in the United States. You and your partner are not alone.

erection - n.
When the penis becomes hard due to sexual stimulation.

felch - v.
To ejaculate into an anus and then lick it out. Sometimes mistakenly used to refer to placing a gerbil or other small animal into the anus.

fellatio - n.
Oral sex performed on a man.

femme adj.
Possessing traditional feminine appearance, attributes and behaviors. Often used to describe gay men and women. See BUTCH.

feminization - n.
Dressing a man up in women's clothing, make-up, etc. to take on a female appearance. Sometimes used in BDSM play as a form of humiliation.

In feminization, a man dresses up as a woman, perhaps in silky lingerie. A mistress might apply makeup, silky stockings, panties, and even a bra and falsies to help him achieve a more feminine appearance. - Mistress Marisha

fist - v., fisting - n.
To place much of the hand, or the entire hand, in the vagina or anus.

fluffer - n.
A woman or man who performs oral sex on an actor to arouse him in preparation for a MONEY SHOT ("cum shot") that must be filmed quickly and with little on-camera preparation. Also called "fluff girl" or "fluff boy".

Glory hole - n.
A hole cut through a wall, allowing anonymous sex between people on either side of the wall. Often found in gay sex clubs.

G-spot - n. [Grafenberg Spot]
An area in the upper wall of the vagina supposed to be especially pleasurable when stimulated. 

half-and-half - n.
When a prostitute performs fellatio and sexual intercourse in a single sex session.

hard - adj.
Aroused; with a stiff penis due to sexual stimulation.

hard on - n.
An erection.

head (give head) 
Oral sex, specifically on a man.

hentai - n.
Japanese animation (anime) depicting graphic sexual scenes.

impotence - n., impotent adj.
The inability to get or sustain an erection. See ERECTILE DYSFUNCTION.

Kegel exercises - n. 
Exercises done to increase strength of the pelvic floor muscle. Said to help women achieve orgasm. 

As for your question about pelvic floor (Kegel) exercises, they can really improve the quality of our orgasms as well as insure urinary control. I recommend these exercises for every women. - Betty Dodson

lingam - n.
Ancient Indian term for the vagina or a representation of the vagina; appears in the Kama Sutra and often used in reference to Tantric sex.

load - n.
Male ejaculate; come. As in, "blow your load"

masturbation - n.
Giving oneself sexual pleasure, especially using the hand, and often resulting in orgasm.

money shot - n.
The climactic scene in a porn film when the man ejaculates, usually onto the woman's body or face; a cum shot.

multiorgasmic - adj.
Prone to having MULTIPLE ORGASMS.

multiple orgasm - n.
Having more than one orgasm in a single sex session, especially in rapid succession. Usually experienced by women.

mutual masturbation - n.
Masturbating in close proximity to someone else or using your hand to fondle another person's genitals.

onanism - n.

Rimming - n.
Licking the edge of the anus.

PC (Pubococcygeus) muscle - n.
The muscle targeted in Kegel exercises.

In trying to identify the PC muscle, women sometimes make the mistake of tightening the all of surrounding muscles -- in their stomachs, thighs, and buttocks. Betty Dodson

Play - n.
Sexual activity, especially BDSM activity.

In one large room, there were a couple of tables, a few chairs, a tiny bar, and then a small play area with a couple of pieces of equipment. We went and got a drink, since we had no plans to actually do any S/M play. Jane Duvall, Janes's Guide

premarital sex - n.
Sexual intercourse between two young, unmarried people.

Despite the segregation of boys and girls, premarital sex is tolerated if it is private and does not result in pregnancy. Infants born out of wedlock are totem ancestors and killed. The Position

Pussy - n.
The vagina.

raw - adj.
Sex without a condom; BAREBACK.

Distinct from an infrequent slip-up, drunken mishap or safer-sex "relapse," barebacking represents a conscious, firm decision to forgo condoms and, despite the dangers, unapologetically revel in the pleasure of doing it raw. The Body

top - n.
1. The dominant person in BDSM activity.

2. The one who penetrates during anal sex, especially between gay males.

Moving between the bodies, I take a seat and watch the center of the action -- two tops take turns with a bottom. The sex is silent, serious and very intense. It continues for what seems like an hour, finally culminating with the two tops each getting off inside the bottom. The Body

tranny - n.
A transsexual.

polyamory - n.
Having medium and long-term relationships with more than one person.

priapism - n.
An medical condition characterized by a painful erection that won't go down.

sex addict, sexual addict - n.
Someone with a compulsive, often self-destructive need to engage in sexual activity 

If men truly are the sexual aggressors in our society, the ones who can be promiscuous without consequence, then who is it exactly they are being promiscuous with?  Sex addicts like me?  Or, is it the "sex addict" in each of you... Dare Magazine

sixty-nine (69) n.
Oral sex performed by two people on each other simultaneously. Called "69" due to the shape of the two numerals, which suggests the sex act.

sniffer's row, sniff row - n.
The row of seats nearest the stage in a strip club.

At first she lay on her stomach, thrusting her posterior up and down, seemingly oblivious to the hoots and howls of the gentlemen positioned directly around the stage. (Steel remembered a group from high school sneaking into a strip joint somewhere and reporting back that this area was known as "Pervert's Row or "Sniffer's Row." Now he understood why.) Crescendo Cove

There is a big double stage with a lot of chairs around it, and for a buck you can get a pretty good show sitting on sniff row.

sodomy - n.
A legal term, usually denoting anal sex or oral sex performed on a man.

sexually transmitted disease n.
Any disease transmitted through sexual contact. See VENEREAL DISEASE.

STD abbr.

taint - n.
The perineum, the strip of tissue between the genitals and the anus of both men and women

It is the small strip of tissue between the genitals and the anus. It is sometimes called the taint because "it ain't the vagina/penis and 't ain't the anus either!" Dr. Gardos, Thrive Online

transvestite - n.
A man who dresses in women's clothing, make-up, etc. Usage note: transvestite usually refers to a man who regularly dresses like a woman and goes out in public that way. 

unload - v.
To ejaculate.

One invitation instructs participants to wear a bandanna to signify whether they want guys to "unload" in them. The Body

Vanilla - adj.
Non-kinky, "traditional" sex, usually between men and women.

VD abbr. 

Venereal Disease - n.
A sexually transmitted disease, traditionally refers to syphilis and gonorrhea. See STD. Usage note: this terminology has fallen out of favor; STD (sexually transmitted disease) is the more common term.

vominatrix - n.
A DOMINATRIX who specializes in making her clients vomit.

wood -n.
An erection.

Yoni - n.
Ancient Indian term for the vagina or a representation of the vagina; appears in the Kama Sutra and often used in reference to Tantric sex.

Zoophilia - n.
Sexual interest in animals. See BESTIALITY.

Zoophile - n.
One who has sexual interest in animals.

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